I love Golden Years weddings. Mature couples who have raised families, retired from careers and, for whatever reason, are single again. When they are lucky enough to find love later in life their story is usually heartwarming and full of hope.
While some might choose to have a big wedding celebration, these couples often prefer a sweet and simple ceremony before their closest friends and family. That’s exactly what Al and Cathy wanted.
Finding Love Again
Al was a widower living in the Del Webb community in Lincoln Hills, California. He met bubbly divorcée Cathy on the tennis court. She was “glistening” after a tennis match, and Al offered to buy her some water!
A spark of attraction ignited between them, they began dating and soon recognized that they wanted to spend their lives together.
As Cathy’s personal vows revealed:
I knew on our first date you were a very special man. You came to the door with a plant behind your back. When you handed it to me, you said, “I wanted to give you something that would last.”
You touched my heart from the very beginning because you are a wonderful and unique person.
So Al proposed and Cathy said “Yes!” They chose the Solarium Room at Orchard Creek Lodge for their intimate winter wedding.
I was honored to perform their wedding ceremony, and take a few photos afterwards.
Interfaith Wedding Ceremony
Witnessed by their families and a handful of dear friends, their ceremony included sweet personal vows, a unity candle ceremony and – as Al admitted – a bit of a leak around the eyes.
Their faith-blending ceremony included a scripture from 1st Corinthians:
Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy. It does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking,
It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
and a quote from Chinese philosopher and Taoist Lao Tzu:
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength,
While loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
The concluding blessing was the traditional Blessing of the Apaches:
Now you will feel no rain,
For each of you will be shelter for the other.
Now you will feel no cold,
For each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there is no loneliness,
For each of you will be companion to the other.
Now you are two persons,
But there is only one life before you.
May beauty surround you both in the journey ahead
And through all the years.
May happiness be your companion
And your days together be good and long upon the earth.
Champagne, Cake and Wedding Wishes
Cathy’s granddaughter was her Maid of Honor and Al’s long-time friend was the Best Man. They both presented sweet toasts and expressed their delight in this marriage!
After cutting the cake, we noticed that the Unity Candle was slowly becoming a puddle of wax. So I suggested that Al and Cathy make a wish and blow out the candle together. They quickly agreed to this non-traditional idea.
Cathy and Al, may your light as a couple continue to shine brightly for one another, not only in times of stillness and calm, but also during times of wind or challenge.
May the inner light of your love always be an eternal flame.
Congratulations, Al and Cathy, and may your wedding wishes come true!