My friend, Meg, and her husband, Dan, recently celebrated their Golden Wedding Anniversary! Meg told me that she and Dan are still discovering new ways to communicate and resolve challenges.
And then she shared this quote with me, which she said “spoke” to her about commitment and longevity in marriage.
Attributed to St. Augustine of Hippo, I believe it is also quoted in Captain Corelli’s Mandolin, written by Louis de Bernières.
“Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being “in love” which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.”
Congratulations, Dan and Meg!